Wednesday Wisdom: It's okay to not be okay.

I found myself telling my yoga instructor I had a miscarriage and he said, " I'm sorry to hear that." I quickly responded, "Oh, it's okay."

But is it? Is it necessary to say that, especially when you don't believe it in your heart?

Why is my first response to say, "It's okay." Or, "I'm okay." As if it's not okay for me to feel all the painful FEELINGS.

I often have to remind myself miscarriages are the norm in my life, but they are taboo in other people's lives. When I tell people I had a miscarriage their facial expression changes. It's almost as if they don't know what to say, actually, it's because they DON'T know what to say.

Can I blame them?

My goal is be more mindful of my response when someone displays sympathy for my situation. There may be days I do indeed feel okay, and there may be other days I do not, and that's okay.